5 effective mindsets to take control of your life

5 effective mindsets

5 positive attitudes that allow you to establish 100% control over your own life

In real life, people are used to blaming everyone for their troubles except themselves. There is an interesting story on this score. It was late evening when a man named N. was returning home. He saw a picture of how his old friend V., under a lantern lamp, was energetically looking for the lost keys to the apartment. He offered to help him. After two unsuccessful hours of searching, N. asked if V. had lost the keys here. The answer struck him: "No, it's just light here to look."

This fictional story underscores the attitude of most people to life's difficulties that "interfere" with achieving true success. To become a winner and not a victim of external factors, the first step is to realize that the result of everything that happens depends on only one person. And this wizard is you. After this step is taken, you must fully accept responsibility for your own destiny.

Full responsibility presupposes the readiness of a person to ensure that everything that happens in life will be carried out through his fault. You are the magnet of all victories and defeats, predetermining the consequences of everything that happened.

This position in life resembles a concrete foundation that allows you to build a victorious skyscraper of life's happiness. Without such a philosophy, nothing can be achieved. Consider five attitudes that help successful people take responsibility for their own lives.

1. Justification = death penalty

Forget about the negative past. Let all past failures become empty words for you. A strong person always acts, changes, tolerates, and achieves the desired goal. But he never justifies himself with the bumps of the past.

A good way to get rid of your fear of possible defeat is to ask the right questions:

How did it happen?
What has not been done?
Is the plan a good one and did I follow it clearly?
What needs to be changed next time to achieve the desired effect? Etc.

Questions open doors. The clearer and more specific they are, the faster progress will be.

2. Change life terms

Situation (S) + Action (D) = Result (R)

This simple equation characterizes everything that happens in our life. If something does not suit you, then a choice dilemma arises:

? Blame your own failure (P) on the current situation (C) or forced actions (D). This is tantamount to complaining about the weather, environment, politics, health, economy, etc. Naturally, no one is immune from unforeseen situations, but if they were fundamental, then no one would have achieved anything grandiose. Remember! There are thousands of people in the world who, in the most unattractive circumstances, have found the cherished loophole for success.

? Change your actions (D) to the situation that has arisen (C) and make adjustments until the desired result (P) is achieved. The problem is that a person is a complex of conserved habits, for which it is more convenient to endure and suffer for many years than to acquire new skills and do what he loves. To overcome this circle, it is advisable to think, act and speak clearly in accordance with your core values every day.

? When you do not like the result (P), then you need to urgently make adjustments to your actions (D). Suppose one lucky person won $ 10,000,000. Two situations automatically arise with the opposite result:

1) Situation - $ 10,000,000 of random income;

Action - 5 years of carefree life;

The result is an emptying of the account and a return to everyday life.

2) Situation - $ 10,000,000 of random income;

Action - studying financial literacy for 3-5 years;

The result is a comfortable existence for the rest of your life.

Everyone is familiar with the phrase that the same actions lead to the same results. So why are so few people really starting to make a difference?

3. The taboo on complaints and grievances

A person always complains only about what he is able to change by his own efforts, but for some reason, he does not do this. This statement is easy to prove. From school, everyone knows the power of attraction. Why isn't anyone complaining about her? After all, if it did not exist, then many troubles could be forgotten forever. However, it cannot be changed, so it is foolish to complain. In human problems, everything is much simpler. You can always find another job, make more money, build happier relationships, and so on. Change is real but rarely achievable. After all, for the result, you need to take risks and make inconvenient decisions. The only one who is completely focused on the result can dare to take such a step. Successful people learn to take action and make requests to other people to achieve the desired effect. This is the only recipe that works.

4. Hear warning signals

All events that take place have their own meaning. The problem is that due to his passivity and ardent unwillingness to do something and change, a person is not able to decipher the warning signals of fate in time. They can manifest themselves in everything (suspicions, hints, feelings, reviews, etc.). Timely signal diagnostics is necessary to change the terms of the life equation. Without them, a person simply floats with the flow of events and loses control over what is happening.

Signal: Low Wages -> Life Equation Adjustment

Ordinary work (S) + stable schedule (D) = Low earnings (P) ->

Ordinary work (C) + stable schedule + part-time work in free time (D) = significant capital gain (P)

5. Just achieve results

Success in any field is easier than it sounds. However, simple does not mean easy at all. Between these concepts lies, a huge abyss called the process. For instance:

Goal (to reduce the total body weight by 30 kg) -> Process (6 months of strict sports and nutritional regimen) -> Result (the body will lose 30 kg in 6 months).

Everything is clear and simple, however, only people with a serious attitude and a reserve of patience can do it.

Successful people use a simple formula - they do more of what is effective and less of what destroys the potential of the individual. They assess the control of their lives according to current conditions and do not forget to make adjustments if necessary. Realize that you are the creator of your own happiness. Accept this and never let someone else do it for you. Good luck!

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